Friends asked us recently, "What's the secret to being married for 14 years?"
My wife quickly answered, "Not getting divorced."
Sounds like something Yogi Berra may say.
The more I've thought about it, man, that's the best answer I could ever give.
You could say, "The secret is to spend time together, to be honest with each other, to give each other space, intimacy, selflessness, etc., etc., etc."
But when you get to the point where the tires hit the pavement, no matter how much you attempt all of these things, you've got two imperfect, naturally selfish people, trying to do what's right; trying to keep the plates spinning; trying to keep kids fed, clean, clothed, to school on time with all their stuff; trying to manage a business and a household, all without trying to get too stressed out so that the kids won't need too much therapy when they're older and that you don't end up on the front page.
I guess what I'm saying is that it ain't always a pretty fairytale.
But like most things worth having in life, you have to choose that thing, whatever it is.
My wife is an awesome lady.
She's strong.
She's intelligent.
She's beautiful.
When we got married, we had no idea what our futures would really look like.
But over 14 years later, the song lyrics holds true:
"It's still the same old story,
a fight for love and glory,
A case of do or die..."
Obviously, some days are more of a struggle than others, but it's 'a fight for love and glory' nonetheless.
But, to me, it's a fight worth fighting.
Each day, I still say, "I dew."
And each day, I'll continue to lace up the gloves for "us".
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